I keep going round in circles on legit sites for older women looking for younger men and I'd rather ask than guess. The picture changes for members in their fifties and sixties once legit sites enters it: the platform hides read receipts on the free tier, and the time it takes to get a first reply suffers for it. If you count yourself among women who have had enough of the inbox, legit sites is worth a second look, because the deciding factor is the churn on new sign-ups, going by the last year or so.
For women who message first, legit younger lands differently: what decides it is the amount of recycled content, not how many photos people post. With legit sites, the proportion of dormant accounts is the number worth watching, not raw member count.
The practical move is to video call before travelling anywhere, which is the whole problem with legit sites. Here is the uncomfortable bit about legit sites for older women looking for younger men — it is worth checking how honest the pricing page is before you look at the size of the database. What has actually worked for you on younger sites, and what would you avoid?