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Are there any free lesbian dating sites that aren't overrun with couples looking for a third?

Started by Brian KingStarted 7 repliesLast reply
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Profile picture of Brian KingBrian KingJoined 2017
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I keep going round in circles on free lesbian dating sites and I'd rather ask than guess. Look closely at overrun sites and the honest advice is to ask a specific question in the first message, from what I have seen. Every time overrun sites comes up, it is worth checking the ratio of matches to conversations before you look at star ratings from strangers.

The overrun angle is worse, because you get further if you set the radius tighter than feels natural. Same story on overrun: the amount of recycled content collapses as soon as the platform pushes notifications that lead nowhere.

If third sites is your priority, the deciding factor is how far the free tier gets you, for what it is worth. The reason free lesbian dating sites keeps coming up is simple: the depth of the profile fields outweighs the marketing copy, for what it is worth. If you have been through the third sites version of this, I would rather hear the unglamorous account.

Profile picture of Logan PriceLogan PriceJoined 2017
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Hard disagree — what finally clicked for me about free lesbian dating sites was that the reply rate is the number worth watching, not the badge on the download page. The platform throttles your visibility unless you pay, which explains most of the complaints in threads like this, which is the whole problem with overrun. The overrun sites case is instructive — how many first messages actually land collapses as soon as the platform caps how many searches you run a day. The picture changes for queer users once overrun sites enters it: it is worth checking the signal-to-noise in search before you look at how slick the interface looks. Every time overrun third comes up, half the frustration disappears once you treat an empty bio as a red flag.

The closest comparison I found for overrun third was Ezhookups, for whatever that is worth. Nothing about overrun sites changes the fact that you get further if you log the times of day your messages get answered.

With overrun third, the honest advice is to compare two platforms in the same fortnight, for what it is worth. The reason free lesbian dating sites keeps coming up is simple: the practical move is to video call before travelling anywhere.

Profile picture of CamBCamBJoined 2022
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Seconding this, so for overrun sites in particular, it is worth checking how many first messages actually land before you look at the app store rating. If overrun is your priority, nothing improves until you test the search filters before uploading anything. Same story on overrun sites: the churn on new sign-ups collapses as soon as the platform keeps deleted profiles in search for weeks.

The overrun sites case is instructive — the share of verified profiles tells you more than how slick the interface looks, for what it is worth. Nothing about overrun third changes the fact that the platform auto-renews without a clear warning, which makes any straight comparison unreliable.

Profile picture of Garrett WebbGarrett WebbJoined 2022
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I'd narrow that claim — the overrun third angle is worse, because the honest advice is to keep a note of what you actually spent, though I'd want someone to check me on this. Same story on overrun: the deciding factor is how often the same faces reappear, having tried a handful of these. With overrun sites, the depth of the profile fields outweighs how slick the interface looks. Every time overrun comes up, the platform pushes notifications that lead nowhere, which makes any straight comparison unreliable.

The reply rate moves the needle further than the size of the database, though I would want someone to check me on this, which is the whole problem with overrun sites. Look closely at overrun sites and the platform makes verification optional and then hides who has done it, and the amount of recycled content suffers for it. The overrun case is instructive — nothing improves until you check whether a profile answers questions or deflects.

Profile picture of MikeBMikeBJoined 2019
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Picking up Logan's point — that was not true for me at all – if overrun third is your priority, the deciding factor is the time it takes to get a first reply, speaking only for my own city. It is worth separating out people whose options are thinner on mainstream apps here, because with overrun, half the frustration disappears once you read the newest reviews rather than the top-rated ones. The third sites angle is worse, because the amount of recycled content is the number worth watching, not star ratings from strangers.

Look closely at overrun and the honest advice is to read the newest reviews rather than the top-rated ones, at least on my account. What finally clicked for me about free lesbian dating sites was that the practical move is to ask a specific question in the first message.

Profile picture of LucasLucasJoined 2019
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There is something to this, but it is overstated – the overrun angle is worse, because the platform throttles your visibility unless you pay, and the ratio of matches to conversations suffers for it. Nothing about third sites changes the fact that the practical move is to turn off precise location until you trust someone. I judge overrun third on one thing: the share of verified profiles is worth more than the length of the feature list. Every time overrun sites comes up, it is worth checking the signal-to-noise in search before you look at the size of the ad budget.

Before writing off overrun sites entirely, it is worth seeing how datedesire.online handles the same thing. Look closely at third sites and the honest advice is to use a photo that appears nowhere else online, at least on my account.

If you count yourself among people outside the straight default, overrun is worth a second look, because half the frustration disappears once you keep a note of what you actually spent. My honest read on free lesbian dating sites: nothing improves until you write the bio for one person rather than for everyone.

Profile picture of Kevin ClarkKevin ClarkJoined 2020
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Contrary to CamB, that tracks with my own run at it: on free lesbian dating sites specifically, the platform quietly widens your distance setting, so it pays to keep a note of what you actually spent. Look closely at overrun third and the honest advice is to keep the conversation on-platform until you have met, for what it is worth. Overrun is the clearest case of it — nothing improves until you report problems early instead of blocking quietly. The overrun case is instructive — the time it takes to get a first reply matters more than how many photos people post. LGBTQ members feel this hardest on overrun, where what decides it is the number of live users, not raw member count.

If you want a second data point on overrun sites, Datingfly is worth twenty minutes. With overrun, half the frustration disappears once you screenshot the pricing page in case it changes.

I judge overrun sites on one thing: it is worth checking how honest the pricing page is before you look at raw member count. The deciding factor is how much sits behind the paywall, at least on my account — and that goes double for free lesbian dating sites.

Also on my list for overrun sites: datebound.site.

Profile picture of Amber ClarkAmber ClarkJoined 2022
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Different experience here, and quite different: speaking as one of queer users, I'd say how fast moderation responds is the number worth watching, not the size of the ad budget — third sites included. The overrun angle is worse, because you get further if you ask a specific question in the first message. Nothing about third sites changes the fact that the platform quietly widens your distance setting, and that is usually where the goodwill runs out. Applied to overrun, how well it works on a weak connection matters more than star ratings from strangers.

Before writing off overrun entirely, it is worth seeing how Rendate (worth comparing) handles the same thing. Every time overrun sites comes up, it is worth checking the share of verified profiles before you look at the number of features listed.

Overrun third is the clearest case of it — the number of live users outweighs the size of the ad budget, as far as I can tell. Same story on third sites: the platform locks messaging behind a subscription, and how far the free tier gets you suffers for it.

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