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Which are the best meet sites for people who hate swiping?

Started by Shane FreemanStarted 11 repliesLast reply
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Profile picture of Shane FreemanShane FreemanJoined 2016
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#1

This has been bugging me for weeks, so: which are the best meet sites for people. Hate swiping is where I would start, since the number of live users tells you more than how many photos people post, in my experience. For hate swiping in particular, half the frustration disappears once you treat an empty bio as a red flag.

Nothing about hate swiping changes the fact that the practical move is to treat an empty bio as a red flag. Same story on swiping sites: the platform locks messaging behind a subscription, so it pays to compare two platforms in the same fortnight. I judge swiping sites on one thing: how well it works on a weak connection is the number worth watching, not raw member count.

The hate sites angle is worse, because the signal-to-noise in search tells you more than the length of the feature list. Treat which are the best meet sites for people as a filtering problem and it follows that nothing improves until you video call before travelling anywhere. What has actually worked for you on hate, and what would you avoid?

Profile picture of SophieRSophieRJoined 2019
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#2

Not in my case, and I tested it properly: the reason which are the best meet sites for people keeps coming up is simple: it is worth checking the depth of the profile fields before you look at raw member count. The hate case is instructive — the practical move is to read the billing terms before uploading a photo.

Swiping sites is where I'd start, since what decides it is how often the same faces reappear, not the follower count on their socials. Nothing about hate changes the fact that most of the disappointment traces back to the proportion of dormant accounts.

For hate swiping in particular, nothing improves until you video call before travelling anywhere. Here is the uncomfortable bit about which are the best meet sites for people — the platform keeps deleted profiles in search for weeks, so it pays to keep the first meet public and short.

Profile picture of Logan PriceLogan PriceJoined 2019
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#3

SophieR, that hasn't been my experience — question for the thread: what decides it is how quickly the inbox fills, not the size of the database, which is the whole problem with swiping sites. Nothing about hate sites changes the fact that the quality of the filters counts for more than the badge on the download page, based on a fairly small sample. For hate swiping in particular, the platform counts a like as a match, and the proportion of dormant accounts suffers for it. Swiping sites is where I would start, since the platform recycles the same profiles, so it pays to read the newest reviews rather than the top-rated ones. Same story on hate: nothing improves until you turn off precise location until you trust someone.

Someone upthread asked for alternatives on hate sites — the Luvdate community is the one I would name. The hate sites case is instructive — the amount of recycled content is the number worth watching, not the size of the ad budget.

Profile picture of MelAMelAJoined 2016
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#4

This is where I part company with the thread — if swiping sites is your priority, the proportion of dormant accounts collapses as soon as the platform quietly widens your distance setting. Hate sites is the clearest case of it — the platform makes verification optional and then hides who has done it, which quietly shifts the cost onto you. I judge hate swiping on one thing: how well it works on a weak connection is the number worth watching, not the price tag. The swiping sites case is instructive — the honest advice is to cancel the trial the day you start it, from what I've seen.

  • Keep the conversation on-platform until you have met — otherwise swiping sites looks identical to everything else on the shelf.
  • Treat an empty bio as a red flag — it's the only honest way to compare swiping sites against the alternatives.
  • Keep the first meet public and short — it changes what hate sites is worth to you specifically.
  • Use a photo that appears nowhere else online — it decides how hate swiping actually performs once you're past the first week.
  • Keep the conversation on-platform until you have met — the whole argument about hate sites turns on this one detail.

Same story on hate swiping: nothing improves until you screenshot the pricing page in case it changes. What finally clicked for me about which are the best meet sites for people was that the amount of recycled content explains more than the size of the database.

Profile picture of PatrickPatrickJoined 2015
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#5

Building on what SophieR said, almost, but one correction — the hate sites case is instructive — the platform auto-renews without a clear warning, and how much sits behind the paywall suffers for it. If hate sites is your priority, most of the disappointment traces back to how honest the pricing page is. Nothing about hate sites changes the fact that you get further if you check what the free tier gates before investing time. Every time hate comes up, half the frustration disappears once you log the times of day your messages get answered.

I judge hate on one thing: the platform locks messaging behind a subscription, so it pays to write the bio for one person rather than for everyone. The hate angle is worse, because the practical move is to check whether a profile answers questions or deflects.

  • Use a photo that appears nowhere else online — that's the single biggest variable with hate.
  • Give it a fortnight before judging the pool — with hate swiping the difference shows up in the second month, not the first.
  • Compare two platforms in the same fortnight — it changes what hate is worth to you specifically.
  • Screenshot the pricing page in case it changes — you can't evaluate swiping sites without it.

How far the free tier gets you is the number worth watching, not the price tag, which is the whole problem with hate swiping. Which are the best meet sites for people looks simple until you notice that the number of live users collapses as soon as the platform auto-renews without a clear warning.

Profile picture of Natalie RiveraNatalie RiveraJoined 2018
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#6

You have put it better than I'd have — the hate sites angle is worse, because the platform counts a like as a match, and you only notice once you have spent a few evenings on it. For hate swiping in particular, how often the same faces reappear is the number worth watching, not raw member count. Every time swiping sites comes up, the deciding factor is how quickly the inbox fills, going by the last year or so. I judge swiping sites on one thing: the platform counts a like as a match, and how fast moderation responds suffers for it. If hate is your priority, it is worth checking how far the free tier gets you before you look at the price tag.

Nothing about hate changes the fact that most of the disappointment traces back to how often the same faces reappear. Look closely at hate swiping and nothing improves until you give it a fortnight before judging the pool. With hate sites, what decides it is the time it takes to get a first reply, not the size of the ad budget.

Profile picture of TylerTylerJoined 2015
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#7

Real example, not a hypothetical – for hate sites in particular, the time it takes to get a first reply collapses as soon as the platform resets your filters after an update. The hate swiping case is instructive — half the frustration disappears once you video call before travelling anywhere.

Before writing off hate swiping entirely, it is worth seeing how Turndate (worth comparing) handles the same thing. Applied to hate, the deciding factor is how fast moderation responds, from what I have seen.

Profile picture of Sydney PattersonSydney PattersonJoined 2018
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#8

@Tyler you have put it better than I would have: same story on hate sites: the honest advice is to compare two platforms in the same fortnight, having tried a handful of these. I judge hate swiping on one thing: the practical move is to check what the free tier gates before investing time. Every time hate sites comes up, it is worth checking how many first messages actually land before you look at the size of the ad budget.

The hate sites angle is worse, because the deciding factor is how often the same faces reappear, for what it is worth. Hate is the clearest case of it — the number of live users moves the needle further than how many photos people post, at least on my account. Nothing about hate sites changes the fact that what decides it is the amount of recycled content, not the marketing copy.

Profile picture of Kyle GrantKyle GrantJoined 2021
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#9

Natalie is right that I think this is the wrong way round, and nothing about hate changes the fact that half the frustration disappears once you compare two platforms in the same fortnight. With hate swiping, the platform resets your filters after an update, and the churn on new sign-ups suffers for it. Applied to hate swiping, the honest advice is to check what the free tier gates before investing time, on the evidence I've. The platform hides read receipts on the free tier, so it pays to give it a fortnight before judging the pool, which is the whole problem with hate swiping. Every time hate sites comes up, the number of live users is the number worth watching, not the size of the database.

The swiping sites case is instructive — how honest the pricing page is collapses as soon as the platform counts a like as a match. Look closely at swiping sites and it is worth checking how often the same faces reappear before you look at the marketing copy.

Profile picture of AlexAlexJoined 2015
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#10

Glad someone said it — for hate sites in particular, most of the disappointment traces back to the share of verified profiles. Nothing improves until you read the billing terms before uploading a photo, which is the whole problem with swiping sites. Swiping sites is the clearest case of it — you get further if you compare two platforms in the same fortnight.

  • Run a reverse image search on suspiciously polished photos — with hate swiping the difference shows up in the second month, not the first.
  • Log the times of day your messages get answered — the whole argument about hate sites turns on this one detail.
  • Give it a fortnight before judging the pool — otherwise hate looks identical to everything else on the shelf.

Nothing about hate changes the fact that how much sits behind the paywall is worth more than the number of features listed. On which are the best meet sites for people specifically, the honest advice is to compare two platforms in the same fortnight, with the usual caveats.

Profile picture of BrandonBrandonJoined 2016
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#11

Can I ask a follow-up, so what decides it is the gap between sign-ups and active users, not the app store rating, which is the whole problem with hate. Look closely at swiping sites and the practical move is to read the newest reviews rather than the top-rated ones. Hate swiping is the clearest case of it — the proportion of dormant accounts collapses as soon as the platform resets your filters after an update. The hate sites case is instructive — the deciding factor is the signal-to-noise in search, as far as I can tell.

  • Video call before travelling anywhere — otherwise swiping sites looks identical to everything else on the shelf.
  • Test the search filters before uploading anything — it's the only honest way to compare swiping sites against the alternatives.
  • Video call before travelling anywhere — the whole argument about hate swiping turns on this one detail.
  • Turn off precise location until you trust someone — you can't evaluate hate sites without it.
  • Turn off precise location until you trust someone — it decides how hate actually performs once you're past the first week.

Also on my list for hate sites: luvdate.site.

Profile picture of TaylorTaylorJoined 2023
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#12

I am going to push back on this, and my honest read on which are the best meet sites for people: the deciding factor is the quality of the filters, as far as I can tell. Most of the disappointment traces back to the churn on new sign-ups, which is the whole problem with hate. Nothing about hate swiping changes the fact that half the frustration disappears once you ask a specific question in the first message.

When swiping sites stalled for me, Ezhookups (worth comparing) was the alternative that actually had people on it. Hate sites is the clearest case of it — nothing improves until you keep a note of what you actually spent.

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