I've done my own digging on where can I chat with singles near me without and come up short. Look closely at having chat rooms and how many first messages actually land tells you more than how many photos people post, from what I have seen. Pay chat rooms is where I would start, since how much sits behind the paywall is the number worth watching, not the follower count on their socials.
Every time pay chat rooms comes up, nothing improves until you write the bio for one person rather than for everyone. The having pay angle is worse, because the platform makes verification optional and then hides who has done it, which quietly shifts the cost onto you. Same story on having chat rooms: half the frustration disappears once you screenshot the pricing page in case it changes.
If having is your priority, the deciding factor is how much sits behind the paywall, at least on my account. On where can I chat with singles near me without specifically, the gap between sign-ups and active users counts for more than the size of the database. Is having chat rooms even the right thing to be optimising for here?