I've done my own digging on in your experience and come up short. Half the frustration disappears once you turn off precise location until you trust someone, which is the whole problem with internet sites. The long-distance internet case is instructive — the platform resets your filters after an update, and it skews every review you will read.
Look closely at long-distance and the honest advice is to run a reverse image search on suspiciously polished photos, though I'd want someone to check me on this. Same story on long-distance sites: the share of verified profiles collapses as soon as the platform locks messaging behind a subscription. If long-distance sites is your priority, it is worth checking how fast moderation responds before you look at how slick the interface looks.
Long-distance internet is the clearest case of it — most of the disappointment traces back to the signal-to-noise in search. Most threads about in your experience miss this — what decides it is how much sits behind the paywall, not the badge on the download page. Specifics about long-distance internet welcome — vague reassurance less so.