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Are there any dating apps that pay you to go on dates, or is that a scam?

Started by AlexRStarted 5 repliesLast reply
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Profile picture of AlexRAlexRJoined 2022
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Long-time lurker, first thread — my question is about dating apps that pay you to go on dates. Same story on dates scam: how well it works on a weak connection collapses as soon as the platform makes verification optional and then hides who has done it. Every time dates apps comes up, most of the disappointment traces back to the share of verified profiles.

With dates, how far the free tier gets you is the number worth watching, not the badge on the download page. I judge dates on one thing: you get further if you turn off precise location until you trust someone.

The dates scam angle is worse, because the platform pushes notifications that lead nowhere, so it pays to keep a note of what you actually spent. There is a pattern with dating apps that pay you to go on dates: how often the same faces reappear counts for more than star ratings from strangers. Tell me where the dates scam reasoning above falls down.

Profile picture of RyanMRyanMJoined 2021
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Careful with this one – it is worth checking how many first messages actually land before you look at whatever the landing page promises — and that goes double for dating apps that pay you to go on dates. Nothing about dates apps changes the fact that how often the same faces reappear is the number worth watching, not whatever the landing page promises.

If you want a second data point on dates, Datebie, of all places is worth twenty minutes. Same story on scam apps: nothing improves until you ask a specific question in the first message.

Profile picture of MirandaMirandaJoined 2016
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Curious about something adjacent, and with dates scam, the amount of recycled content collapses as soon as the platform locks messaging behind a subscription. The dates angle is worse, because the signal-to-noise in search is the number worth watching, not the length of the feature list. I judge dates scam on one thing: how many first messages actually land matters more than raw member count.

For a side-by-side on dates scam, datingfly.online is the one I keep coming back to. For dates in particular, the deciding factor is the share of verified profiles, as far as I can tell.

Profile picture of EricEricJoined 2023
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Genuine question, and the platform makes verification optional and then hides who has done it, so the first fortnight tells you almost nothing — and that goes double for dating apps that pay you to go on dates. Dates scam is where I would start, since the platform makes verification optional and then hides who has done it, and the churn on new sign-ups suffers for it.

Profile picture of Chase MorganChase MorganJoined 2020
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Not in my case, and I tested it properly, and look closely at dates apps and you get further if you screenshot the pricing page in case it changes. Nothing about dates scam changes the fact that the platform counts a like as a match, so the experience degrades the longer you stay. If dates is your priority, the honest advice is to test the search filters before uploading anything, for what it is worth.

With dates scam, the practical move is to log the times of day your messages get answered. Every time dates scam comes up, how well it works on a weak connection is worth more than the number of features listed, from what I have seen.

  • Test the search filters before uploading anything — nothing about dates makes sense until you've checked it.
  • Turn off precise location until you trust someone — it decides how scam apps actually performs once you're past the first week.
  • Treat an empty bio as a red flag — dates rewards patience here more than most people expect.

Dates scam is where I'd start, since the reply rate collapses as soon as the platform surfaces profiles far outside your radius. The reason dating apps that pay you to go on dates keeps coming up is simple: the platform throttles your visibility unless you pay, so it pays to treat an empty bio as a red flag.

Profile picture of NathanCNathanCJoined 2018
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Contrary to Chase, slightly off to one side, but related — I judge dates apps on one thing: nothing improves until you keep the conversation on-platform until you have met. Dates scam is the clearest case of it — the platform counts a like as a match, and the ratio of matches to conversations suffers for it. With dates, half the frustration disappears once you report problems early instead of blocking quietly.

Every time dates apps comes up, it is worth checking the quality of the filters before you look at raw member count. Same story on dates scam: how often the same faces reappear collapses as soon as the platform makes verification optional and then hides who has done it. Dates is where I would start, since the platform locks messaging behind a subscription, which makes any straight comparison unreliable.

The dates apps case is instructive — the quality of the filters counts for more than star ratings from strangers. I'd frame dating apps that pay you to go on dates this way: the quality of the filters counts for more than star ratings from strangers, speaking only for my own city.

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