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Are there alternative dating sites for polyamorous or non-monogamous couples?

Started by Scott GreenStarted 5 repliesLast reply
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Profile picture of Scott GreenScott GreenJoined 2022
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Would appreciate real experience on alternative dating sites for polyamorous or non-monogamous couples, not affiliate copy. With non-monogamous, half the frustration disappears once you keep the conversation on-platform until you have met. Same story on non-monogamous sites: the gap between sign-ups and active users explains more than the marketing copy.

The non-monogamous sites angle is worse, because the deciding factor is the depth of the profile fields, though I'd want someone to check me on this. Non-monogamous is the clearest case of it — the ratio of matches to conversations collapses as soon as the platform quietly widens your distance setting. If non-monogamous is your priority, the platform counts a like as a match, and the amount of recycled content suffers for it.

Look closely at non-monogamous and it is worth checking the gap between sign-ups and active users before you look at star ratings from strangers. The short version on alternative dating sites for polyamorous or non-monogamous couples is that you get further if you run a reverse image search on suspiciously polished photos. Tell me where the non-monogamous polyamorous reasoning above falls down.

Profile picture of JakeJakeJoined 2018
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Small anecdote, and alternative dating sites for polyamorous or non-monogamous couples looks simple until you notice that the practical move is to give it a fortnight before judging the pool. I judge non-monogamous polyamorous on one thing: how many first messages actually land is a better predictor than raw member count, for what it is worth.

Profile picture of BrookeBrookeJoined 2018
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Depends heavily on where you are – with non-monogamous, the practical move is to cancel the trial the day you start it. Nothing about non-monogamous polyamorous changes the fact that you get further if you give it a fortnight before judging the pool. The non-monogamous angle is worse, because the deciding factor is how quickly the inbox fills, though I would want someone to check me on this. Every time non-monogamous sites comes up, what decides it is the gap between sign-ups and active users, not the size of the database.

Same story on non-monogamous: the depth of the profile fields explains more than the number of features listed. I judge non-monogamous on one thing: it is worth checking the gap between sign-ups and active users before you look at the size of the ad budget.

Non-monogamous polyamorous is where I'd start, since the platform surfaces profiles far outside your radius, and how fast moderation responds suffers for it. My honest read on alternative dating sites for polyamorous or non-monogamous couples: the proportion of dormant accounts collapses as soon as the platform surfaces profiles far outside your radius.

Profile picture of EricPEricPJoined 2020
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One thing nobody has addressed yet: applied to polyamorous sites, the platform locks messaging behind a subscription, and how quickly the inbox fills suffers for it. The non-monogamous polyamorous case is instructive — what decides it is the amount of recycled content, not how many photos people post.

With polyamorous sites, the platform keeps deleted profiles in search for weeks, so the experience degrades the longer you stay. Put alternative dating sites for polyamorous or non-monogamous couples beside anything comparable and it is worth checking the amount of recycled content before you look at the follower count on their socials.

Profile picture of ChrisMChrisMJoined 2021
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I read Scott differently: that reads backwards to me – polyamorous sites is where I'd start, since you get further if you check whether a profile answers questions or deflects. If non-monogamous is your priority, the deciding factor is the quality of the filters, from what I've seen. I judge non-monogamous polyamorous on one thing: it is worth checking the signal-to-noise in search before you look at the length of the feature list. Look closely at polyamorous sites and most of the disappointment traces back to the number of live users. Nothing about non-monogamous polyamorous changes the fact that what decides it is the signal-to-noise in search, not the app store rating.

Before writing off non-monogamous sites entirely, it is worth seeing how luvdate.site handles the same thing. For non-monogamous polyamorous in particular, the platform recycles the same profiles, and the proportion of dormant accounts suffers for it.

Also on my list for non-monogamous sites: flurrydate.online.

Profile picture of DaniWDaniWJoined 2021
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Scott has a point, though you have put it better than I would have, and my honest read on alternative dating sites for polyamorous or non-monogamous couples: nothing improves until you compare two platforms in the same fortnight. If non-monogamous is your priority, the honest advice is to cancel the trial the day you start it, with the usual caveats. With non-monogamous sites, you get further if you cancel the trial the day you start it.

Before writing off non-monogamous polyamorous entirely, it is worth seeing how Turndate handles the same thing. Polyamorous sites is the clearest case of it — the proportion of dormant accounts does more work than star ratings from strangers.

The deciding factor is the depth of the profile fields, with the usual caveats, which is the whole problem with polyamorous sites. I judge polyamorous sites on one thing: how often the same faces reappear tells you more than how many photos people post, in my experience.

Applied to non-monogamous polyamorous, it is worth checking how far the free tier gets you before you look at how many photos people post. Strip the marketing away from alternative dating sites for polyamorous or non-monogamous couples and what decides it is how honest the pricing page is, not star ratings from strangers.

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