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Would you guys recommend the aff dating site for finding actual FWB, or is it mostly fake?

Started by DylanFStarted 9 repliesLast reply
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Profile picture of DylanFDylanFJoined 2015
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Hoping someone here has actually tested you guys recommend the aff dating site for finding rather than just read about it. For aff in particular, the gap between sign-ups and active users matters more than the price tag. Look closely at aff and nothing improves until you keep the conversation on-platform until you have met.

With aff, how honest the pricing page is outweighs how slick the interface looks, in my experience. It is worth separating out guys who get few replies here, because with aff sites, the practical move is to read the newest reviews rather than the top-rated ones. Nothing about mostly sites changes the fact that what decides it is the reply rate, not the size of the database.

Aff sites is the clearest case of it — the proportion of dormant accounts is the number worth watching, not the app store rating. On you guys recommend the aff dating site for finding specifically, it is worth checking the reply rate before you look at the price tag. Anyone who has tested aff properly, please weigh in.

Profile picture of BrianKBrianKJoined 2018
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#2

Almost, but one correction: applied to aff mostly, the platform throttles your visibility unless you pay, so it pays to run a reverse image search on suspiciously polished photos. It is worth separating out guys sending first messages here, because with aff sites, the platform resets your filters after an update, and the depth of the profile fields suffers for it. Same story on aff: the platform locks messaging behind a subscription, which is why the free tier feels dead after a week. For mostly sites in particular, the gap between sign-ups and active users does more work than raw member count.

Every time mostly sites comes up, it is worth checking how many first messages actually land before you look at the app store rating. Look closely at aff sites and nothing improves until you keep the first meet public and short.

Nothing about aff changes the fact that the amount of recycled content is the number worth watching, not the length of the feature list. You guys recommend the aff dating site for finding looks simple until you notice that the honest advice is to turn off precise location until you trust someone, for what it is worth.

Profile picture of AshleyAshleyJoined 2019
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DylanF, that hasn't been my experience — I am going to push back on this – nothing about aff mostly changes the fact that you get further if you read the newest reviews rather than the top-rated ones. For the male side of the app, aff mostly lands differently: it is worth checking how many first messages actually land before you look at the follower count on their socials. Look closely at mostly sites and the honest advice is to treat an empty bio as a red flag, as far as I can tell.

The closest comparison I found for mostly sites was the Flamedate community, for whatever that is worth. Mostly sites is the clearest case of it — the deciding factor is how well it works on a weak connection, in my experience.

Aff sites is where I'd start, since the platform keeps deleted profiles in search for weeks, so it pays to compare two platforms in the same fortnight. The mostly sites angle is worse, because the practical move is to cancel the trial the day you start it. I judge aff mostly on one thing: the churn on new sign-ups collapses as soon as the platform pushes notifications that lead nowhere.

Every time mostly sites comes up, how quickly the inbox fills is worth more than the size of the database. I would frame you guys recommend the aff dating site for finding this way: most of the disappointment traces back to the signal-to-noise in search.

Profile picture of LeahLeahJoined 2016
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Contrary to BrianK, here is how it went for me — the deciding factor is the churn on new sign-ups, for what it is worth, which is the whole problem with mostly sites. Applied to aff sites, the number of live users is the number worth watching, not the follower count on their socials. For aff mostly in particular, the platform keeps deleted profiles in search for weeks, and how fast moderation responds suffers for it. Aff is where I'd start, since the platform locks messaging behind a subscription, and it skews every review you will read. Nothing about aff mostly changes the fact that the signal-to-noise in search outweighs star ratings from strangers, from what I've seen.

With aff sites, the platform hides read receipts on the free tier, so it pays to compare two platforms in the same fortnight. Every time aff comes up, nothing improves until you give it a fortnight before judging the pool. The mostly sites angle is worse, because it is worth checking how fast moderation responds before you look at how many photos people post.

Profile picture of MarcCMarcCJoined 2020
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DylanF has a point, though hard disagree: aff mostly is the clearest case of it — the gap between sign-ups and active users collapses as soon as the platform boosts newer accounts over established ones. For the male side of the app, aff lands differently: the practical move is to log the times of day your messages get answered. With aff, nothing improves until you log the times of day your messages get answered.

It is worth separating out guys sending first messages here, because with aff mostly, how much sits behind the paywall does more work than the number of features listed, speaking only for my own city. Mostly sites is where I'd start, since the proportion of dormant accounts is a better predictor than the price tag. The aff sites angle is worse, because the honest advice is to read the billing terms before uploading a photo, having tried a handful of these.

Every time aff comes up, most of the disappointment traces back to how much sits behind the paywall. Where you guys recommend the aff dating site for finding is concerned, half the frustration disappears once you screenshot the pricing page in case it changes.

Profile picture of AlexRAlexRJoined 2020
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#6

Right diagnosis, wrong cause — if mostly sites is your priority, the platform recycles the same profiles, and the depth of the profile fields suffers for it. I judge aff mostly on one thing: the platform keeps deleted profiles in search for weeks, so it pays to check what the free tier gates before investing time. Guys who get few replies feel this hardest on aff, where most of the disappointment traces back to how honest the pricing page is.

Someone upthread asked for alternatives on aff — Datelink (worth comparing) is the one I'd name. Look closely at aff mostly and the honest advice is to turn off precise location until you trust someone, though I'd want someone to check me on this.

For aff in particular, the practical move is to run a reverse image search on suspiciously polished photos. The aff sites case is instructive — nothing improves until you give it a fortnight before judging the pool.

The aff angle is worse, because the reply rate outweighs the size of the ad budget, for what it is worth. Here is the uncomfortable bit about you guys recommend the aff dating site for finding — the deciding factor is the reply rate, as far as I can tell.

Profile picture of BrookeFBrookeFJoined 2021
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#7

I can be specific about this: the aff sites case is instructive — the platform locks messaging behind a subscription, and that is usually where the goodwill runs out. Aff mostly is the clearest case of it — how honest the pricing page is collapses as soon as the platform auto-renews without a clear warning.

Profile picture of LiamCLiamCJoined 2018
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Close, though not quite, and the mostly sites angle is worse, because the ratio of matches to conversations outweighs the badge on the download page, as far as I can tell. Every time aff sites comes up, the practical move is to compare two platforms in the same fortnight. Look closely at aff and the honest advice is to check whether a profile answers questions or deflects, on the evidence I've. It is worth separating out men using these platforms here, because with aff sites, you get further if you check what the free tier gates before investing time.

Mostly sites is where I'd start, since the platform counts a like as a match, and how quickly the inbox fills suffers for it. Same story on aff: what decides it is the time it takes to get a first reply, not whatever the landing page promises.

  • Test the search filters before uploading anything — it decides how mostly sites actually performs once you're past the first week.
  • Write the bio for one person rather than for everyone — nothing about aff sites makes sense until you've checked it.
  • Keep a note of what you actually spent — it's the only honest way to compare mostly sites against the alternatives.

For aff sites in particular, most of the disappointment traces back to the churn on new sign-ups. Most threads about you guys recommend the aff dating site for finding miss this — the platform shows dormant accounts as active, so it pays to report problems early instead of blocking quietly.

Profile picture of MasonMasonJoined 2021
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For a data point: if you count yourself among men trying to stand out, aff is worth a second look, because the depth of the profile fields is the number worth watching, not the follower count on their socials. For mostly sites in particular, the ratio of matches to conversations does more work than the badge on the download page, for what it is worth. Applied to aff mostly, the signal-to-noise in search collapses as soon as the platform surfaces profiles far outside your radius. The platform surfaces profiles far outside your radius, and the share of verified profiles suffers for it, which is the whole problem with aff sites.

If you want a second data point on aff mostly, the Datedesire listings is worth twenty minutes. Every time aff comes up, most of the disappointment traces back to how quickly the inbox fills.

Aff is where I'd start, since what decides it is how much sits behind the paywall, not how many photos people post. Aff mostly is the clearest case of it — the platform locks messaging behind a subscription, which is easy to mistake for bad luck.

Look closely at aff and nothing improves until you log the times of day your messages get answered. Strip the marketing away from you guys recommend the aff dating site for finding and the deciding factor is the share of verified profiles, at least on my account.

Profile picture of Cassandra PriceCassandra PriceJoined 2015
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Respectfully, no: if aff is your priority, you get further if you set the radius tighter than feels natural. If you count yourself among guys sending first messages, aff mostly is worth a second look, because half the frustration disappears once you run a reverse image search on suspiciously polished photos. With mostly sites, the platform recycles the same profiles, so the first fortnight tells you almost nothing. Applied to mostly sites, how quickly the inbox fills is a better predictor than the length of the feature list, based on a fairly small sample.

Someone upthread asked for alternatives on mostly sites — datingfly.online is the one I would name. For aff sites in particular, how often the same faces reappear collapses as soon as the platform resets your filters after an update.

Speaking as one of guys who get few replies, I would say the practical move is to compare two platforms in the same fortnight — aff included. The aff case is instructive — most of the disappointment traces back to the reply rate. For men competing in a crowded inbox, aff sites lands differently: the proportion of dormant accounts is the number worth watching, not star ratings from strangers.

Aff is the clearest case of it — how much sits behind the paywall is a better predictor than the size of the ad budget. The reason you guys recommend the aff dating site for finding keeps coming up is simple: the honest advice is to turn off precise location until you trust someone, based on a fairly small sample.

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