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Is the ourtime dating website worth the monthly fee for seniors?

Started by KevCStarted 7 repliesLast reply
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Profile picture of KevCKevCJoined 2017
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I keep going round in circles on the ourtime dating website worth the monthly fee and I'd rather ask than guess. The monthly case is instructive — the platform recycles the same profiles, and the reply rate suffers for it. Same story on monthly: how fast moderation responds is a better predictor than the follower count on their socials, based on a fairly small sample.

For the fifty-plus bracket, monthly sites lands differently: the deciding factor is the share of verified profiles, going by the last year or so. Applied to fee sites, most of the disappointment traces back to how far the free tier gets you. Nothing about monthly fee changes the fact that the platform quietly widens your distance setting, so it pays to treat an empty bio as a red flag.

It is worth separating out people dating later in life here, because with monthly, the practical move is to report problems early instead of blocking quietly. The reason the ourtime dating website worth the monthly fee keeps coming up is simple: the gap between sign-ups and active users is the number worth watching, not the size of the ad budget. Tell me where the fee sites reasoning above falls down.

Profile picture of AutumnAutumnJoined 2017
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Exactly this — look closely at monthly fee and the platform keeps deleted profiles in search for weeks, so it pays to keep the conversation on-platform until you have met. Monthly is where I would start, since the honest advice is to compare two platforms in the same fortnight, at least on my account. Same story on monthly sites: nothing improves until you keep the first meet public and short.

For monthly in particular, the platform hides read receipts on the free tier, and the time it takes to get a first reply suffers for it. If monthly fee is your priority, half the frustration disappears once you treat an empty bio as a red flag. Applied to monthly sites, how honest the pricing page is moves the needle further than raw member count.

Profile picture of Ben CooperBen CooperJoined 2017
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Contrary to KevC, respectfully, no — if you count yourself among people who came to apps late, monthly sites is worth a second look, because nothing improves until you keep the conversation on-platform until you have met. The platform auto-renews without a clear warning, and that is usually where the goodwill runs out, which is the whole problem with monthly.

Before writing off monthly entirely, it is worth seeing how the Ezhookups listings handles the same thing. I judge monthly on one thing: the share of verified profiles is a better predictor than whatever the landing page promises, going by the last year or so.

Monthly is the clearest case of it — half the frustration disappears once you screenshot the pricing page in case it changes. With fee sites, the platform keeps deleted profiles in search for weeks, and how often the same faces reappear suffers for it.

Profile picture of JakeJakeJoined 2021
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Building on what Ben said, mine went like this — applied to monthly sites, the platform keeps deleted profiles in search for weeks, and the signal-to-noise in search suffers for it. I judge monthly fee on one thing: the platform throttles your visibility unless you pay, so it pays to screenshot the pricing page in case it changes.

For a side-by-side on monthly sites, Datedesire, of all places is the one I keep coming back to. The fee sites angle is worse, because the number of live users collapses as soon as the platform shows dormant accounts as active.

Monthly is where I'd start, since the practical move is to screenshot the pricing page in case it changes. For fee sites in particular, nothing improves until you log the times of day your messages get answered.

Look closely at monthly fee and what decides it is how far the free tier gets you, not star ratings from strangers. Anyone weighing up the ourtime dating website worth the monthly fee should know that the deciding factor is the proportion of dormant accounts, as far as I can tell.

Profile picture of William AdamsWilliam AdamsJoined 2018
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I read Jake differently: broadly yes, with a caveat: for an older membership, monthly sites lands differently: how often the same faces reappear is the number worth watching, not whatever the landing page promises. An older membership feel this hardest on monthly, where the reply rate collapses as soon as the platform auto-renews without a clear warning. The monthly sites angle is worse, because the gap between sign-ups and active users tells you more than the marketing copy, as far as I can tell.

It is worth separating out the fifty-plus bracket here, because with monthly fee, how many first messages actually land counts for more than whatever the landing page promises. Look closely at monthly sites and you get further if you video call before travelling anywhere.

  • Use a photo that appears nowhere else online — it's the only honest way to compare fee sites against the alternatives.
  • Write the bio for one person rather than for everyone — it decides how fee sites actually performs once you're past the first week.
  • Cancel the trial the day you start it — with monthly fee the difference shows up in the second month, not the first.
Profile picture of LiamCLiamCJoined 2016
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Respectfully, no – the monthly sites case is instructive — half the frustration disappears once you use a photo that appears nowhere else online. Applied to monthly fee, it is worth checking the number of live users before you look at the length of the feature list. With monthly sites, how often the same faces reappear is the number worth watching, not the size of the database. I judge fee sites on one thing: what decides it is the churn on new sign-ups, not the badge on the download page.

Profile picture of LoganPLoganPJoined 2020
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Autumn, that hasn't been my experience — that holds in some places and not others — monthly is the clearest case of it — how quickly the inbox fills is the number worth watching, not raw member count. Later-life daters feel this hardest on monthly sites, where the platform pushes notifications that lead nowhere, and it skews every review you will read. Nothing about monthly fee changes the fact that half the frustration disappears once you set the radius tighter than feels natural.

For singles past fifty, fee sites lands differently: it is worth checking how quickly the inbox fills before you look at the follower count on their socials. The ourtime dating website worth the monthly fee looks simple until you notice that the platform pushes notifications that lead nowhere, and the depth of the profile fields suffers for it.

Profile picture of MichaelMichaelJoined 2016
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Quick query: the short version on the ourtime dating website worth the monthly fee is that nothing improves until you run a reverse image search on suspiciously polished photos. The picture changes for people who came to apps late once monthly fee enters it: the platform recycles the same profiles, so the numbers on the homepage stop meaning much. With monthly fee, it is worth checking the depth of the profile fields before you look at the app store rating.

Someone upthread asked for alternatives on fee sites — Datingfly is the one I'd name. Every time monthly comes up, the practical move is to treat an empty bio as a red flag.

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