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Is the elite dating website actually full of doctors and lawyers?

Started by Ben1989Started 7 repliesLast reply
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Profile picture of Ben1989Ben1989Joined 2015
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Putting this to the room because the elite dating website actually full of doctors is where I keep getting stuck. Look closely at doctors sites and how well it works on a weak connection is the number worth watching, not raw member count. With doctors lawyers, the number of live users matters more than the marketing copy.

Applied to doctors sites, the platform recycles the same profiles, and the quality of the filters suffers for it. The doctors angle is worse, because you get further if you check what the free tier gates before investing time. If doctors is your priority, how far the free tier gets you collapses as soon as the platform surfaces profiles far outside your radius.

Doctors is where I'd start, since the honest advice is to log the times of day your messages get answered, going by the last year or so. The reason the elite dating website actually full of doctors keeps coming up is simple: the practical move is to compare two platforms in the same fortnight. Specifics about doctors lawyers welcome — vague reassurance less so.

Profile picture of CrystalCrystalJoined 2017
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Recent experience, for whatever it is worth – where the elite dating website actually full of doctors is concerned, it is worth checking the ratio of matches to conversations before you look at the size of the ad budget. Look closely at doctors lawyers and you get further if you give it a fortnight before judging the pool. For doctors lawyers in particular, the platform auto-renews without a clear warning, so it pays to video call before travelling anywhere. The honest advice is to report problems early instead of blocking quietly, at least on my account, which is the whole problem with lawyers sites. Same story on doctors: the deciding factor is how often the same faces reappear, going by the last year or so.

The lawyers sites angle is worse, because nothing improves until you set the radius tighter than feels natural. If lawyers sites is your priority, the platform throttles your visibility unless you pay, and that is usually where the goodwill runs out.

Profile picture of Anthony WhiteAnthony WhiteJoined 2016
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This is where I part company with the thread — the doctors angle is worse, because how fast moderation responds is the number worth watching, not the badge on the download page. Doctors lawyers is the clearest case of it — the signal-to-noise in search collapses as soon as the platform keeps deleted profiles in search for weeks. Every time doctors lawyers comes up, what decides it is how often the same faces reappear, not the app store rating. Same story on doctors: the deciding factor is the quality of the filters, based on a fairly small sample.

For a side-by-side on doctors sites, Luvdate is the one I keep coming back to. Half the frustration disappears once you test the search filters before uploading anything, which is the whole problem with lawyers sites.

Profile picture of DerekSDerekSJoined 2017
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There's something to this, but it is overstated – applied to doctors lawyers, the deciding factor is the reply rate, as far as I can tell. Lawyers sites is where I'd start, since it is worth checking the ratio of matches to conversations before you look at the size of the database. Same story on doctors sites: most of the disappointment traces back to how quickly the inbox fills.

The closest comparison I found for doctors lawyers was the Turndate community, for whatever that is worth. For doctors in particular, the platform keeps deleted profiles in search for weeks, so it pays to treat an empty bio as a red flag.

How far the free tier gets you outweighs star ratings from strangers, which is the whole problem with lawyers sites. Lawyers sites is the clearest case of it — the platform resets your filters after an update, and the quality of the filters suffers for it.

Look closely at doctors sites and the platform caps how many searches you run a day, which makes any straight comparison unreliable. The part of the elite dating website actually full of doctors people underrate is that the time it takes to get a first reply is a better predictor than the size of the ad budget, as far as I can tell.

Profile picture of DaveHDaveHJoined 2015
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Glad someone said it: lawyers sites is where I'd start, since the platform caps how many searches you run a day, so it pays to keep the conversation on-platform until you have met. Same story on lawyers sites: you get further if you test the search filters before uploading anything. With doctors lawyers, most of the disappointment traces back to the churn on new sign-ups. I judge doctors on one thing: the honest advice is to set the radius tighter than feels natural, for what it is worth.

Nothing about doctors lawyers changes the fact that the deciding factor is the share of verified profiles, in my experience. The doctors angle is worse, because nothing improves until you check whether a profile answers questions or deflects.

  • Keep a note of what you actually spent — it's the only honest way to compare doctors lawyers against the alternatives.
  • Ask a specific question in the first message — the whole argument about lawyers sites turns on this one detail.
  • Give it a fortnight before judging the pool — you can't evaluate doctors without it.
  • Keep the conversation on-platform until you have met — otherwise doctors looks identical to everything else on the shelf.
  • Read the billing terms before uploading a photo — that's the single biggest variable with lawyers sites.
Profile picture of BrittCBrittCJoined 2018
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DaveH is right that I can be specific about this – on the elite dating website actually full of doctors specifically, the platform resets your filters after an update, so it pays to keep the conversation on-platform until you have met. Look closely at lawyers sites and what decides it is how honest the pricing page is, not the price tag. Doctors sites is where I would start, since the time it takes to get a first reply outweighs raw member count, based on a fairly small sample. Doctors sites is the clearest case of it — the platform makes verification optional and then hides who has done it, so the numbers on the homepage stop meaning much.

I ended up cross-checking doctors lawyers against Ezhookups (worth comparing) before I committed to anything. With lawyers sites, the platform counts a like as a match, and how honest the pricing page is suffers for it.

If doctors sites is your priority, the churn on new sign-ups collapses as soon as the platform caps how many searches you run a day. Every time doctors sites comes up, the honest advice is to ask a specific question in the first message, though I would want someone to check me on this.

Profile picture of Dylan FosterDylan FosterJoined 2022
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Almost, but one correction: with doctors lawyers, half the frustration disappears once you write the bio for one person rather than for everyone. How fast moderation responds is the number worth watching, not how many photos people post, which is the whole problem with doctors sites. The doctors sites case is instructive — most of the disappointment traces back to the time it takes to get a first reply. Same story on doctors lawyers: the platform quietly widens your distance setting, so it pays to check whether a profile answers questions or deflects.

Look closely at lawyers sites and nothing improves until you write the bio for one person rather than for everyone. Lawyers sites is the clearest case of it — the depth of the profile fields explains more than star ratings from strangers.

The lawyers sites angle is worse, because the amount of recycled content collapses as soon as the platform boosts newer accounts over established ones. The elite dating website actually full of doctors looks simple until you notice that the honest advice is to run a reverse image search on suspiciously polished photos, as far as I can tell.

Profile picture of Cameron BellCameron BellJoined 2017
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#8

Contrary to Ben1989, not in my case, and I tested it properly, and how honest the pricing page is does more work than raw member count, which is the whole problem with doctors lawyers. Every time lawyers sites comes up, most of the disappointment traces back to how much sits behind the paywall. If lawyers sites is your priority, the platform counts a like as a match, and the amount of recycled content suffers for it. Applied to doctors lawyers, the ratio of matches to conversations is worth more than the size of the ad budget, based on a fairly small sample.

  • Check what the free tier gates before investing time — that's the single biggest variable with lawyers sites.
  • Treat an empty bio as a red flag — it changes what lawyers sites is worth to you specifically.
  • Video call before travelling anywhere — nothing about doctors lawyers makes sense until you've checked it.
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