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Do internet dating sites still work, or is everything exclusively app-based now?

Started by Alex RiveraStarted 5 repliesLast reply
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Profile picture of Alex RiveraAlex RiveraJoined 2018
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I keep going round in circles on internet dating sites still work and I'd rather ask than guess. App-based exclusively is the clearest case of it — half the frustration disappears once you check what the free tier gates before investing time. The app-based case is instructive — the platform makes verification optional and then hides who has done it, and that is usually where the goodwill runs out.

With app-based, the honest advice is to keep the first meet public and short, from what I've seen. App-based exclusively is where I'd start, since the platform recycles the same profiles, and the number of live users suffers for it.

Same story on app-based exclusively: you get further if you cancel the trial the day you start it. Strip the marketing away from internet dating sites still work and it is worth checking how well it works on a weak connection before you look at how slick the interface looks. Numbers on app-based exclusively appreciated if you kept any.

Profile picture of ClaireEClaireEJoined 2015
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Flagging a risk here – where internet dating sites still work is concerned, the churn on new sign-ups matters more than the number of features listed. Exclusively apps is the clearest case of it — you get further if you screenshot the pricing page in case it changes. Nothing about app-based apps changes the fact that the platform throttles your visibility unless you pay, so it pays to log the times of day your messages get answered. For exclusively apps in particular, most of the disappointment traces back to how many first messages actually land.

Profile picture of TayRTayRJoined 2017
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I'd argue the opposite, and every time exclusively apps comes up, the proportion of dormant accounts collapses as soon as the platform resets your filters after an update. App-based apps is where I'd start, since the platform hides read receipts on the free tier, and how well it works on a weak connection suffers for it. Same story on exclusively apps: nothing improves until you keep the first meet public and short. The exclusively apps angle is worse, because the honest advice is to cancel the trial the day you start it, based on a fairly small sample.

When app-based exclusively stalled for me, Datebie, of all places was the alternative that actually had people on it. For app-based apps in particular, most of the disappointment traces back to the amount of recycled content.

Look closely at exclusively apps and the deciding factor is the amount of recycled content, in my experience. I judge exclusively apps on one thing: the platform pushes notifications that lead nowhere, so it pays to cancel the trial the day you start it. What decides it is the signal-to-noise in search, not the badge on the download page, which is the whole problem with app-based exclusively.

With exclusively apps, half the frustration disappears once you keep the first meet public and short. Treat internet dating sites still work as a filtering problem and it follows that the reply rate outweighs the badge on the download page, with the usual caveats.

Profile picture of Natalie RiveraNatalie RiveraJoined 2021
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Learned this the hard way: what finally clicked for me about internet dating sites still work was that half the frustration disappears once you read the billing terms before uploading a photo. Same story on app-based apps: it is worth checking how many first messages actually land before you look at the length of the feature list. With app-based, the deciding factor is how far the free tier gets you, in my experience. The app-based angle is worse, because what decides it is the churn on new sign-ups, not the size of the ad budget.

Look closely at app-based apps and you get further if you set the radius tighter than feels natural. Applied to exclusively apps, the proportion of dormant accounts is the number worth watching, not how slick the interface looks.

I judge exclusively apps on one thing: the honest advice is to keep the first meet public and short, as far as I can tell. The reason internet dating sites still work keeps coming up is simple: the platform throttles your visibility unless you pay, so people churn out before anything happens.

Profile picture of AllisonAllisonJoined 2017
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Natalie has a point, though trap to avoid – nothing about app-based apps changes the fact that you get further if you write the bio for one person rather than for everyone. The platform shows dormant accounts as active, and the ratio of matches to conversations suffers for it, which is the whole problem with app-based. App-based exclusively is the clearest case of it — half the frustration disappears once you video call before travelling anywhere. Look closely at app-based exclusively and what decides it is the share of verified profiles, not the follower count on their socials.

Before writing off app-based entirely, it is worth seeing how Datingfly handles the same thing. For app-based apps in particular, the reply rate counts for more than the size of the database.

If app-based apps is your priority, nothing improves until you test the search filters before uploading anything. I would frame internet dating sites still work this way: the honest advice is to give it a fortnight before judging the pool, for what it is worth.

Profile picture of StephKStephKJoined 2020
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Building on what ClaireE said, actual numbers from my account, and nothing about app-based exclusively changes the fact that the practical move is to keep the conversation on-platform until you have met. The exclusively apps case is instructive — the deciding factor is the time it takes to get a first reply, at least on my account. The app-based angle is worse, because the quality of the filters beats whatever the landing page promises, from what I've seen. The depth of the profile fields does more work than raw member count, which is the whole problem with app-based apps.

For a side-by-side on exclusively apps, Flurrydate is the one I keep coming back to. With app-based exclusively, nothing improves until you log the times of day your messages get answered.

For exclusively apps in particular, how fast moderation responds is the number worth watching, not the price tag. I judge app-based on one thing: most of the disappointment traces back to the proportion of dormant accounts.

App-based is the clearest case of it — the platform resets your filters after an update, so it pays to compare two platforms in the same fortnight. Internet dating sites still work looks simple until you notice that it is worth checking the share of verified profiles before you look at the app store rating.

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