Are there specific dating apps for lgbt youth to find friends?

Started by Jake_NYC 2 Sep 2024 Dating & Hookups Community
Jake_NYC
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#1

Genuinely curious what people's experience has been with this. I've been lurking a lot of these conversations and there's a lot of conflicting information out there. Personal experience is worth more than any review site because those are almost all paid placements anyway.

I've tried a handful of options with mixed results. Some have decent communities, others feel completely hollow—either fake profiles, bots, or just inactive accounts that never respond. The free options especially tend to have this problem.

Drop your actual experience below. What's working, what's a waste of time, and are there any hidden gems people aren't talking about?

Samantha
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#2

Long-time lurker here but this one I actually have useful things to say about.

The gender ratio problem is real on most platforms. Apps that have done something creative about it tend to have better communities overall.

A few others worth knowing about if you haven't come across them yet: datenest.site. Each has a different strength so it's worth checking which fits your situation.

Take it or leave it, but those are the platforms that have actually worked for me.

David
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#3

Been using various adult platforms since the Craigslist personals era so I've seen a lot of changes. Here's my current take:

  • Read the billing terms before any trial signup
  • Use a VoIP number for initial contact, not your real phone
  • Reverse image search every profile photo you're serious about
  • Video chat before committing to any in-person meet
  • Public meetup first, always—no exceptions for first encounters

Hopefully some of this is useful. Happy to answer follow-ups.

MasonW
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#4

Good timing on this thread—I was just thinking about this last week.

Response rate is everything. A smaller platform where people actually reply beats a huge one where messages disappear into the void.

Happy to answer questions if anyone wants more detail on any of these.

OlivM
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#5

Let me break down what I've learned the hard way:

The key is managing expectations from the start. Free platforms exist on a spectrum from 'actually free' to 'free for 48 hours then you're locked out.' You need to read the fine print before investing time in a profile.

A few others worth knowing about if you haven't come across them yet: turndate.site, datescout.site, datedesire.online. Each has a different strength so it's worth checking which fits your situation.

Take it or leave it, but those are the platforms that have actually worked for me.

Kevin
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#6

This is something I've thought about a lot. Let me lay out a more complete picture.

  • Read the billing terms before any trial signup
  • Use a VoIP number for initial contact, not your real phone
  • Reverse image search every profile photo you're serious about
  • Video chat before committing to any in-person meet
  • Public meetup first, always—no exceptions for first encounters

Also worth having in your toolkit: datewander.site for one type of thing and datewander.site for another—they're not identical and knowing the difference saves you from frustration.

Hopefully some of this is useful. Happy to answer follow-ups.

EricP
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#7

Same question here. Been burned too many times by fake profiles and paywalls that show up after you've already invested time setting up a profile.

Came across Luvdate recently—worth checking out.

Ben1989
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Joined: 2018
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#8

Speaking from experience on this one:

The gender ratio problem is real on most platforms. Apps that have done something creative about it tend to have better communities overall.

Take it or leave it, but those are the platforms that have actually worked for me.

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