Which dating and chatting app has the best video call features?

Started by Brooke Foster 27 Mar 2024 Dating & Hookups Community
Brooke Foster
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Joined: 2016
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#1

Text-based adult interaction is genuinely underrated. There's something about the anonymity and the pacing of a good chat that you don't get from video. That said, most of the free platforms are absolutely crawling with bots and the moderation is basically nonexistent.

I've been trying different platforms for months now—some IRC remnants, a couple web-based options, a few Discord servers. The quality varies enormously. The best ones have some barrier to entry (even something small like a brief registration process) that keeps the worst actors out.

What are people using that actually has real users behind the keyboards? I don't mind paying a small amount if it means I'm actually talking to a person.

David Hall
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Posts: 3666
#2

Solid advice in this thread. The reversal lookup tip is something everyone should be doing before trusting anyone on these platforms.

Danielle White
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Joined: 2016
Posts: 1089
#3

Honestly the best filtering is just time—bots don't bother with real back-and-forth conversation. If they can answer a couple of specific questions naturally, there's probably a person there.

Also worth noting: datingfly.online.

William
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Joined: 2022
Posts: 1387
#4

Long-time lurker here but this one I actually have useful things to say about.

The gender ratio problem is real on most platforms. Apps that have done something creative about it tend to have better communities overall.

A few others worth knowing about if you haven't come across them yet: flamedate.online, Ezhookups.online, rendate.site. Each has a different strength so it's worth checking which fits your situation.

Happy to answer questions if anyone wants more detail on any of these.

Diana Grant
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Posts: 550
#5

Same question here. Been burned too many times by fake profiles and paywalls that show up after you've already invested time setting up a profile.

Jake
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#6

Let me break down what I've learned the hard way:

Response rate is everything. A smaller platform where people actually reply beats a huge one where messages disappear into the void.

One thing worth mentioning is Datenest—it has a different approach to matching that I think deserves more attention. The interface is cleaner than most and it doesn't bury everything behind a hard paywall immediately.

Take it or leave it, but those are the platforms that have actually worked for me.

MelA
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Joined: 2023
Posts: 272
#7

Been using various adult platforms since the Craigslist personals era so I've seen a lot of changes. Here's my current take:

  • Free doesn't always mean free—look for trial periods with auto-renewal
  • Profile verification reduces bot ratios significantly
  • Smaller communities often have better engagement than huge platforms
  • Privacy settings matter—always check what's public by default
  • Response rate > profile count: 50 active users beats 50,000 ghosts

Hopefully some of this is useful. Happy to answer follow-ups.

LeahF
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Joined: 2017
Posts: 3828
#8

I've had way better luck being specific in my profile about what I want than trying to cast a wide net. Specific attracts compatible people.

Came across Luvdate recently—worth a look.

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