Has anyone used the portal freedating com, and is it any good?

Started by AdamR 9 Sep 2024 Dating & Hookups Community
AdamR
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#1

So I've been down this rabbit hole for a while now and honestly I'm exhausted. Every site you sign up for has the same play—lure you in with "free" access, then lock everything interesting behind a premium wall. I've wasted more money than I care to admit trying to find something that actually delivers.

The trial cancellation thing is especially frustrating. You forget by one day and suddenly there's a charge on your card you didn't see coming. Has anyone actually gotten money back from these places? I filed a dispute with my bank once and it worked, but I'm not sure if that's the standard route.

Would love to hear from people who've found workarounds or platforms that are genuinely upfront about pricing. Drop your experiences below.

Madison
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Posts: 2087
#2

Been using various adult platforms since the Craigslist personals era so I've seen a lot of changes. Here's my current take:

  • Older, established platforms have larger user bases but more bots
  • Newer platforms have smaller but often more engaged communities
  • Location matters a lot—what works in major cities may be dead in smaller towns
  • The gender ratio varies wildly and directly affects your experience
  • Premium tiers are worth it when the free tier actually shows you real users

Also worth having in your toolkit: datedesire.online for one type of thing and luvdate.site for another—they're not identical and knowing the difference saves you from frustration.

Take the above as a starting point, not the final word. Your mileage may vary significantly.

James
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Posts: 675
#3

Great thread. This is exactly the kind of honest discussion that's missing from most review sites.

NicoleB
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Joined: 2015
Posts: 1832
#4

I'll give you the honest breakdown since there's a lot of marketing noise around this topic:

  • Mobile-first design is now the standard for good platforms
  • Video verification before meetups is the single best safety tool
  • Paywalls that let you see but not contact are a yellow flag
  • Check for recent activity on profiles before investing time
  • Report bots aggressively—good platforms act on reports quickly

Also worth having in your toolkit: datenest.site for one type of thing and souldate.site for another—they're not identical and knowing the difference saves you from frustration.

Take the above as a starting point, not the final word. Your mileage may vary significantly.

SophieR
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Joined: 2020
Posts: 328
#5

Tried a few of these and honestly the landscape changes faster than anyone can keep up. What works one month might be dead the next.

Came across Datewander recently and it's been decent—worth a look.

Brittany Cole
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Joined: 2020
Posts: 3129
#6

I'll give you the honest breakdown since there's a lot of marketing noise around this topic:

  • Free doesn't always mean free—look for trial periods with auto-renewal
  • Profile verification reduces bot ratios significantly
  • Smaller communities often have better engagement than huge platforms
  • Privacy settings matter—always check what's public by default
  • Response rate > profile count: 50 active users beats 50,000 ghosts

Take the above as a starting point, not the final word. Your mileage may vary significantly.

Liam Carter
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Joined: 2021
Posts: 2117
#7

Did a deep dive into this a few months back, here's what I found:

Response rate is everything. A smaller platform where people actually reply beats a huge one where messages disappear into the void.

A few others worth knowing about if you haven't come across them yet: datedesire.online. Each has a different strength so it's worth checking which fits your situation.

That's my take anyway—curious if others have had different results.

JamesN
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Joined: 2016
Posts: 1985
#8

Okay, going to actually put effort into answering this one because it comes up all the time and the answers are usually unhelpful.

  • Mobile-first design is now the standard for good platforms
  • Video verification before meetups is the single best safety tool
  • Paywalls that let you see but not contact are a yellow flag
  • Check for recent activity on profiles before investing time
  • Report bots aggressively—good platforms act on reports quickly

For what it's worth, I've been using Datebound recently and the experience has been noticeably better than the more well-known options. Less fake-feeling, responses actually happen.

Hopefully some of this is useful. Happy to answer follow-ups.

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