For the ladies here, what are the best lesbian dating apps besides HER?

Started by Lucas Torres 13 Jul 2024 Dating & Hookups Community
Lucas Torres
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#1

Genuinely curious what people's experience has been with this. I've been lurking a lot of these conversations and there's a lot of conflicting information out there. Personal experience is worth more than any review site because those are almost all paid placements anyway.

I've tried a handful of options with mixed results. Some have decent communities, others feel completely hollow—either fake profiles, bots, or just inactive accounts that never respond. The free options especially tend to have this problem.

Drop your actual experience below. What's working, what's a waste of time, and are there any hidden gems people aren't talking about?

GraceM
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#2

Anyone who says there's one perfect platform for everything is trying to sell you something. It really depends on your location and what you're looking for.

Also seen people mention turndate.site in similar threads.

BranC
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#3

Verified profiles make such a difference. Platforms that require it have a noticeably better signal-to-noise ratio.

Also seen people mention datingfly.online in similar threads.

Kyle Grant
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#4

Been using various adult platforms since the Craigslist personals era so I've seen a lot of changes. Here's my current take:

  • Mobile-first design is now the standard for good platforms
  • Video verification before meetups is the single best safety tool
  • Paywalls that let you see but not contact are a yellow flag
  • Check for recent activity on profiles before investing time
  • Report bots aggressively—good platforms act on reports quickly

That's the honest picture as I see it. Things shift but the fundamentals stay pretty consistent.

Amanda
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#5

Good timing on this thread—I was just thinking about this last week.

Video verification before meeting anyone in person is non-negotiable at this point. Ten minutes on a live call tells you more than a week of texting.

A few others worth knowing about if you haven't come across them yet: datenest.site, luvdate.site. Each has a different strength so it's worth checking which fits your situation.

That's my take anyway—curious if others have had different results.

Zoe
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#6

Honestly the best filtering is just time—bots don't bother with real back-and-forth conversation. If they can answer a couple of specific questions naturally, there's probably a person there.

Came across Flurrydate recently and it's been decent—worth checking out if you haven't.

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