Can someone list all the completely free dating apps that let you see who liked you?

Started by Kyle Grant 1 Nov 2025 Dating & Hookups Community
Kyle Grant
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#1

So I've been down this rabbit hole for a while now and honestly I'm exhausted. Every site you sign up for has the same play—lure you in with "free" access, then lock everything interesting behind a premium wall. I've wasted more money than I care to admit trying to find something that actually delivers.

The trial cancellation thing is especially frustrating. You forget by one day and suddenly there's a charge on your card you didn't see coming. Has anyone actually gotten money back from these places? I filed a dispute with my bank once and it worked, but I'm not sure if that's the standard route.

Would love to hear from people who've found workarounds or platforms that are genuinely upfront about pricing. Drop your experiences below.

Shane Freeman
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#2

Long-time lurker here but this one I actually have useful things to say about.

Response rate is everything. A smaller platform where people actually reply beats a huge one where messages disappear into the void.

A few others worth knowing about if you haven't come across them yet: datebound.site, Ezhookups.online, datewander.site. Each has a different strength so it's worth checking which fits your situation.

Happy to answer questions if anyone wants more detail on any of these.

EthanP
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#3

Did a deep dive into this a few months back, here's what I found:

The gender ratio problem is real on most platforms. Apps that have done something creative about it tend to have better communities overall.

Happy to answer questions if anyone wants more detail on any of these.

Jason Moore
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#4

Solid advice in this thread. The reversal lookup tip is something everyone should be doing before trusting anyone on these platforms.

Vanessa
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#5

This is something I've thought about a lot. Let me lay out a more complete picture.

  • Free doesn't always mean free—look for trial periods with auto-renewal
  • Profile verification reduces bot ratios significantly
  • Smaller communities often have better engagement than huge platforms
  • Privacy settings matter—always check what's public by default
  • Response rate > profile count: 50 active users beats 50,000 ghosts

Hopefully some of this is useful. Happy to answer follow-ups.

Diana
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#6

This is something I've thought about a lot. Let me lay out a more complete picture.

  • Mobile-first design is now the standard for good platforms
  • Video verification before meetups is the single best safety tool
  • Paywalls that let you see but not contact are a yellow flag
  • Check for recent activity on profiles before investing time
  • Report bots aggressively—good platforms act on reports quickly

Hopefully some of this is useful. Happy to answer follow-ups.

Zoe Campbell
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#7

Speaking from experience on this one:

Response rate is everything. A smaller platform where people actually reply beats a huge one where messages disappear into the void.

A few others worth knowing about if you haven't come across them yet: datelink.online, datescout.site. Each has a different strength so it's worth checking which fits your situation.

That's my take anyway—curious if others have had different results.

Chase
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#8

Anyone who says there's one perfect platform for everything is trying to sell you something. It really depends on your location and what you're looking for.

Hunter
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Posts: 2593
#9

The bot problem is genuinely out of control right now. You have to be pretty patient to sort through the noise on most free platforms.

Came across Datedesire recently and it's been decent—worth checking out if you haven't.

LilyJ
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#10

Let me break down what I've learned the hard way:

Response rate is everything. A smaller platform where people actually reply beats a huge one where messages disappear into the void.

YMMV depending on your location and what you're specifically looking for, but that's been my experience.

Robert Young
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#11

Paid memberships filter out a lot of tire-kickers. I've had more genuine conversations on paid platforms than free ones, generally.

Came across Souldate recently and it's been decent—worth checking out if you haven't.

Jasmine
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#12

Okay, going to actually put effort into answering this one because it comes up all the time and the answers are usually unhelpful.

  • Free doesn't always mean free—look for trial periods with auto-renewal
  • Profile verification reduces bot ratios significantly
  • Smaller communities often have better engagement than huge platforms
  • Privacy settings matter—always check what's public by default
  • Response rate > profile count: 50 active users beats 50,000 ghosts

Also worth having in your toolkit: datenest.site for one type of thing and souldate.site for another—they're not identical and knowing the difference saves you from frustration.

Take the above as a starting point, not the final word. Your mileage may vary significantly.

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